In my last post I talked about the trust factor. More specifically, I spoke about trusting our decisions, trusting ourselves and trusting trust. I have spent some time thinking on this and decided on an approach that I think will work for me - an approach that I think will help me build back my trust in myself and my trust in trust. (more…)

In the Power of Solitude I mentioned trust as a very important factor to opening yourself to emotional sharing with anyone - to building real relationships that ease the pang of loneliness. Since thinking about it more, I realize that there is a very strong truth to that statement. But the truth is not in the ability to trust others - but in the ability to trust our own judgment about others - the ability to trust ourselves. (more…)

You guessed it. I am hung up on the topic of loneliness. I think am beginning to believe that there is a power in solitude. When I am alone sometimes I am bored, sometimes it makes me unhappy - to the point of being depressed. But more and more often these days I feel satisfied.

I know that by nature we should all be social persons, we should be enjoying the company of other people and enjoying activities that allow us to share our emotions with someone else. But the problem arises when you do not have the trust factor that allows you to share your emotions. For quite a while that inability to share left me feeling depressed and lonely. However, lately I have been finding “The Power of Solitude”.

The power of solitude is the expression that is used to describe the state of feeling good and adequate on being alone. I know that you should not always be alone but at least when you are alone you shouldn’t feel that bad.

What makes a person unable to stay alone is the external dependency, just like some people are dependent on drugs others are dependent on being with other people. I think that in order to be able to truly enjoy and share with others I first need to learn how to be satisfied with my own company.

We have all heard the expression being alone in a crowd. But I do not think that it applies to loneliness as many would have it. You can be alone in a crowd yet yet not feel the desolate feeling of loneliness. Maybe you are lone because you just do not fit in - you are apart from the others and that is the way you want it.

Loneliness comes when you are apart from other people but you want to belong - you want to be part of the crowd. The feeling of loneliness can occur when you are physically alone and you want someone near, or when you are in a crowd of people you do not identify with.

Loneliness is defined as being dejected by the awareness of being alone. Alone is defined as being apart from others; solitary.